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How confident you really are?

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I thought I have decent level of self confidence yet I found out how many underlying beliefs I have and although in some areas of my life I am confident there are still areas that I need to improve it.

I found this paragraph below on mindtools.com website:

Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence. At the other end, we have people who may be over-confident. If you are under-confident, you’ll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself; and you might not try at all. And if you’re over-confident, you may take on too much risk, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and crash badly. You may also find that you’re so optimistic that you don’t try hard enough to truly succeed. Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, you will take informed risks, stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard.

I like this balance idea a lot and yet I think that most clients I see suffer from lack of self confidence in many different ways. Some of them even might hold to some beliefs so strongly that they will not take any action at all.

To help you to recognize some areas you might want to work on, ask yourself these simple questions:

  •  When do I feel truly confident? Describe in as much detail as you can what was happening, who was there, did you have any expectations, or were there expectations from others? What type of relationship/s existed, how were you feeling mental and physically?
  • What is the circumstance that supports your feeling?
  •  In what areas I am not confident?
  • What do I gain by being not confident in these areas?
  • What could I gain by being confident in these areas?

See how you feel after answering them.

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Spirituality in coaching

Why Coaching is Important in Your Life?

No doubt coaching is influenced by many professions and areas but as much as it seems to be easier to find an influence in consulting, psychology and management theories I find spiritual link the most fascinating and difficult one to describe. For me spirituality takes into account the whole person, that is, mind, body and spirit.

Inner-peace, wellbeing and fulfillment are often terms associated with spirituality, as the concept focuses on listening to your ‘inner-self’ and your true desires. It is intimate and personal which also subject to the environment of growing up, educational and experiential background.

People are different and I think spirituality is a wonderful topic to explore in coaching. Especiallyfor a client that is considering expanding their view or increasing the presence of spirituality in their life. The downside to spirituality being such a diverse, undefined area is that it can make it hard to decide where to begin exploring. A coach can be an excellent source of support with that process.

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Self development plan to reach potential


I really like the thought that self development plan is about reaching our potential. Yet we have either tendency of setting goals (or potential) too low or quite opposite, too high and then became frustrated when we don’t reach them.

This goes back to the idea of setting SMART goals. We need to make sure our goals are specific, measurable, achievable, and relevant or depending on model realistic and time-based. It’s a simple tool used by businesses to translate goal-setting into an actionable plan for results and can work quite well for your self development plan as well.

Other issue could be that even though you take the time to create a development plan, it might be too complex, too many things on it, too many goals and tasks, and since some people like more spontaneous, improvising, then it might become a cannon bullet making heavy until consciously or unconsciously being ignored. I had the same issue with my planning at work and would end with a crazy workload. I have learnt to make it simpler, friendlier and same can be applied in our personals plan.

Journaling on progress and reflecting on results and the journey allows us to modify our strategies in order to improve even further and strengthen our progress and reduce fall backs. I believe the journey is really where we do our learning and gain the most awareness about ourselves. The results will or not follow, it will not always depend on our input and commitment but whatever the result is, I do think that if we were present along the journey, we will have learnt, changed and grown.

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Why Coaching is Important in Your Life?


Achieving success seems to be a daunting task. Where should I start? Is it my internal work to be done or external factors affecting my life? These are the questions that you may have when it comes to finding out the best way to meet your goals in your life. If you have done everything you can but still you fail to get what you desire, it could mean that you miss something and perhaps it is coaching.

Coaching is designed to fulfill one goal: to help someone who wants to grow, improve and possess new skills, change habits and achieve dreams. Coaching covers various aspects such as businesses, professional life, relationship issues, wellness and many more. Coaching is actually a general term which means you can find different types of coaches and one of them could be the person who can give the kind of support you need.

You can benefit from coaching in many ways:

  • With a coach, you will be more able to meet what you want in your life or uncover what you truly desire in your life
  • With coaching you can overcome the obstacles that you may encounter on your way to success.
  • You become a happier person or better professional.
  • You will gain new skills and you become more efficient in your life.
  • Your relationship with the people around you will be better.
  • And last but not least: Coaching will help you to release your true potential

For the companies, coaching can help in improving its capability to meet its goals like increasing its revenue, getting new clients, building better relationships with their present customers and many more. For the employees, it can support them in unleashing their full potential to become better and more productive at work.

For an average person, coaching can help him or her to develop his or her self-esteem and to create and keep healthy relationships with his or her partner, friends, relatives and co-employees. Coaching is really a very valuable thing that leads you to happiness and success in life. It can also help you when it comes to becoming more profitable so if you want to get all of the benefits mentioned previously, you should work with a reliable coach today. Determine your needs and aspects of your life that must be developed. After that, look for someone who can provide the kind of assistance you require.

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