For many years I did not. I was taught to keep smiling and to behave in a way my parents and society were expecting me to behave. I was a good daughter, great student and reasonable teenager, what some might call “a young old lady.”
I thought it was perfectly normal and I didn’t realize until my late twenties that it has affected my whole life and in many ways closed my heart. Outside I had brave face; I was always smiley and seemed happy. Looking in from the outside someone might say that I had a perfect life, but I was wearing a mask. Inside I was lost and lonely. I forgot how to express how I really feel, what is hurting me and what makes me happy. I think I was living someone else’s expectations and it was not truly me. I had a good job, I bought an apartment and I had friends, but I was not feeling happy. I simply wasn’t in touch with myself and my feelings.
There was not one thing that happened that changed my way of thinking. It was a process of realizing that something is not right, shifting my perspective, starting to listen to my heart, and observing what’s going on with my body and mind and if my outside reaction is aligned with it.
Now I can honestly say that although I’ve come a long way, there is still room for improvement and work to be done. But over the years my self-confidence and belief in myself has increased. I trust myself more than I have ever in my life. I feel more like me, secure and happy.
I believe I am not the only one who has felt disconnected from herself and I believe that through the process of coaching you can build the fundamentals of internal happiness and external success in life.
If you would like to learn more and see how to practice the change of behaviour then you can find the whole article on International Coach Federation blog where it was originally published.